Time was Tough but i conquered..

These 3 months have been immensely tough and hard for me. I was getting insecure, impatient and negative towards life. Overcoming my own fear, nerves and scary emotions was getting impossible for me. The fear of losing my routine lifestyle, my busy schedule, my happy hours made me fragile. I used to convince myself everyday that its a bad dream and i am gonna get over with it the next morning. But it never happened. It was depressing, painful but a real thing effecting my life. I wasn't able to express the feeling that was residing in my heart to anybody because i failed to communicate and i had no courage to make others unhappy around me. Especially the ones who wanted a smile on my face, who knew i was a strong person and who walked every mile of this bad phase with me. Finally, I gathered myself and promised to follow what i preach that is "being optimistic". 


I am happy I conquered this battle of emotional crisis where the mind and body were on the verge of divorce.. I remember, as a kid once i forced myself to perform on the stage and conquered my stage fright. Every body then claimed "she is a confident girl". Nobody had an idea of the efforts that was put in to win that title of a confident girl. Similarly this time too i forced myself and i know it made me stronger. 


But i think this weak moment of my life made me greedy for more love and attention i received from everybody whom i love so much. i don't need to mention their names as they all know that they are just so special to me. I feel that the extra pounds that i have gained during this time is not because of the medicines but because of the excessive love that was showered on me. Its a small space to thank you all. hence i wont brag more :)


P.S: Your presence, love, care and positive attitude made me stronger and healthier as if nothing happened to me. I wish to hold your hand and continue this journey and follow your wise words to achieve that state of "best" from "better".

Being an employee………

Last week I was reading a book called “Employee First Customer Second” written by Vineet Nayyar, CEO, HCL Technologies. I was impressed by the various ideas, thoughts and facts mentioned in the book. Not because I am an HCL employee so I liked the book but because I read the book from an employee’s perspective. I have read a couple of books on management, managers, employees but this book has something different to offer. It pleased me as an employee. It helped me understand that we all need to get out of our mundane working style and mechanical attitude. As an employee we have certain expectations from our organization and vice-versa. We need to understand that expectation doesn’t always indicate monetary or luxury benefits. It also indicates some responsibility. I don’t want to illustrate the philosophy mentioned in the book because that might not please everyone but I would like to express certain aspects in my way and as per my thinking.

You would all agree that we suffer from a serious workplace disease called “criticism”. The moment we get time we start criticizing our organization. Nobody in this world would be happy from his/her organization (Exceptions are always there). We keep highlighting the negatives and ignore the positives. I believe it’s a human nature and even I would be suffering with the same. But why do we forget that ‘charity begins at home’. I mean why we don’t spend time in criticizing ourselves or improving ourselves rather pointing finger towards the organization. Just think for a moment that it is this “workplace” that helps us earn our bread & butter. It is just like a second home to us where we spend more than half of the day. We ought to carry some respect. I know it sounds philosophical but I believe it’s not difficult. It is all a mind game. Imagine if we start loving everything about our workplace, what excitement we will carry… People with frustrated minds and bitching attitude may have a long lasting career but can’t have the respect in the minds of the people working around them.

The book talks about ‘Employees First and Customer Second” but we should not misinterpret the underlying meaning. All that benefits employees ultimately benefits our customer. A happy employee attracts customers. Today, customers are very smart. They would want to work with a company where they see passionate and sincere employees. A customer’s credibility sticks with an organization if he/she catches that spark and transparency among the employees. Vineet in the book says “Put employees first, customers will themselves follow”. So, True!

I know it’s easier to preach than to practice. But read this book as an employee not as a critic. You might not agree with many aspects but try look out for things that you liked about this book, about the philosophy. For me I believe it’s a philosophy that helps you widen your horizon as an employee. Now its upto us that whether we want to be a back bencher and throw criticism at the organization or be a part of that criticism and work for the betterment of the organization and off course ourselves. Nothing is perfect in this world because even the imperfection has lot to offer.

Life is as you See it....

 

Every news channel on 12 of April had the breaking news titled ‘NOIDA HORROR’. The two sisters who were rescued by the police and the NGO, were found in a starved and dehydrated condition. After watching various channels I learnt that both the sisters were mentally disturbed and their situation worsened after their father died. They also have a younger brother who now stays in Pune with his wife.

The elder sister was in her early 40s and was well- educated. The younger is in her 30s and a Chartered accountant by profession. For past seven months they have been in isolation. Finally with help of some NGOs they were rescued. That day, every channel carried a catchy headline, ‘mahanagar ka nark’,,, or ‘ Iss mahanagr mei koi apna nai’’ stuff like that. I also got to know that the sisters believed that they were inflicted by some black magic.

Whatever might have been the reason, but I am sure every single person who got the chance to have a look at that video must have felt a great pain in the heart.

After watching this incident, I kept wondering that what does such an incident indicate?? Does it prove that people dwelling in small towns are far better?? Or Does it prove that we are living in a century where if required even the family members can shrug off their responsibility for their selfish motive?? Or Does it proves that we all are so damn busy in our lives that we hardly pay heed to what is happening in our surrounding?? Before I could arrive at a conclusion, I got a sad news that the elder sister died despite of all the positive efforts made by the doctors.

I was unable to pacify myself. I kept thinking how can we punish our body to this level that even the bones in our body could be counted. Those two women did not eat anything for past 3 months?? They were wearing woolen clothes in summer season. Sounds just so strange!

Each one of us faces ups and downs in our life but that doesn’t mean that we get the right to disrespect the life and the precious body given to us by GOD. In how much pain GOD must have been after watching those women suffer badly. I know many of you must be thinking that it is easy to write such big lines but only the afflicted can understand the depth of pain. I know it is difficult but not impossible.

Even in the worst situation of your life, if you don’t get a shoulder to cry,, a hand to pacify, , or few words of sympathy don’t get disheartened.. … You just need to get a chance to meet the real heroes of life...

-You just need to look around and see how a rickshaw-puller works hard every day but still his family starves every alternate day.

-Remember the last time, when you saw a small kid working in a ‘dhaba’ and he was so happy to serve people

-Just look around in your area and you will find every fifth women staying in your neighborhood is a victim of ‘Domestic Violence’…

-Do make a visit to the nearest old age home of your city and you will get to see the real India. The oldies staying there always carry a question mark on their face as if they want to say- ‘After 60 years of love , care, devotion & concern , Are we really a burden to them’’

-Just take out some time and speak to the servants working at your home,, ask them personal questions… you will be surprised to know that every day they face public harassment in one or the other way….

-The list goes on.. but still you want to see some more,, then just make a visit some of the luxury bungalows,, with big business and lavish life-style… In most cases, you will find that the only precious thing that they have is ‘’MONEY’’…

So does all these examples signify that these people are not living a life?? They are no different from us. It is just that they are little more courageous than us and they respect their life unlike us. They have the spirit to fight every facet of life. They are not losers like us who keep cursing their life. They make sure to win every challenge that life throws at them.

We should be grateful to GOD for giving us a life of a human-being. Always remember that such tough moments in our life come to test our patience, sensitivity, self-motivation. How can we forget that every cloud has a silver-lining. Every difficult time in our life will lead us to better days…

Amen!

My Room

Today I am really happy to write about something very close to me, “My Room”, about which I had never thought, I would ever write.

Can you believe I have spent almost 20 years in my room. From the days of my bed wetting till the day I felt like a grown up girl, who always made a freaky face looking herself in the big mirror hanging on the wall.

I still remember the entrance of my room, the wooden door, the book shelf and also the cute little moments when mumma used to peep into my room to check whether I was studying or sleeping.

In the left side of my room there was a big table, which I think was “my master mind” as most of the tricky ideas I got when I sat on it.

The most fascinating thing about my room was the large window which opened to our kitchen garden having a huge banyan tree because of which I always felt that the atmosphere of my room changed with every season.

During my summer holidays, I spent most of my time decorating the walls of my room with newspaper cutting giving it a collage effect. I had decorated the other side of my room’s wall with a picture of four chickens, which I made specifically keeping in mind my three sisters to feel their presence always.

The walls of my room were getting spoiled with my creativity. My father usually looked at me with weird expressions when he saw those anti-wall elements like fevicol, oil colours etc being used on the wall.

The most comfortable thing of my room was my bed, set in the middle of the room. And how can I forget those two lizards “black and obnoxious” who were my all time companions.

I have always been a kid who enjoyed watching television a lot. Frankly speaking watching the idiot-box too much makes us a little insane and on top of that my favorite category was ‘horror, crime;. As a result I used to imagine the shadow of banyan tree falling on the walls of my room to some ghostly figure..

I still remember my birthdays, when I used to decorate my room with lots of balloons before my relatives came and I always thought that I decorated it in the most beautiful way than anybody else. I know those were my childhood days but my feelings were really true am still so close to my room more than my house. even today I don’t like sharing my room or its cupboard with anyone, it is not the selfish part of me but I would say that I just share a beautiful relationship with my room though it may sound abstract but is true.,

But truly speaking, I really miss my room. Today I am not in my hometown but those memories are still fresh in my mind. My room is the only witness of all those happy moments spent during my childhood and It has always been a part of my sad and unhappy moments too. I want to relive those moments again. Today I desperately want to go back to my home and be oneself in my room.

Be Original...!!

Is it really that difficult to be what you are and to express what you feel.. I sometimes fail to understand the reason that why gradually people have forgotten their real self..


When people try to play too safely in a particular situation or in any relationship then its is the most crucial time for all those who happen to be the victims.


I believe there is a very thin line between 'Diplomacy' and 'being Fake'. It is at the same time difficult to recognize.


Sometimes in order to create a protective shell around us, we develop the tendency of giving diplomatic replies to others and  even behave similary. For diplomatic people, the easiest way to move out of a discussion is to give a neutral reply! But tell you what guys, this attitude is IN at most of the workplaces today and even when it comes to relationships.. Today, this is considered as an essential quality needed to sustain in this competitive world.

(Nothing Personal) but I dont agree to this. Not because I  am a starightforward person but may be I cant digest the FAKEHOLIC crowd around me.


I think GOD's best gift to all of us is our attitude and character. I think letting people accept us the the way we are is a slightly difficult task but not impossible. At our workplaces I know 'Diplomacy' works, but it should not diffuse into our blood to an extend that we fail to give a 'sensible advice to somewhen'. It should not block our sense of judgement.


I really dont want to create a negative vibe around this but I am purposely writing with a posititve mind.


Guys! Learn to love yourself and be yourself. Learn to stand alone when nobody is there to support you. You seriously dont have to behave like 'THEM' to get successful  Life. You will automatically get respect from others if you follow your heart and respect your own identity. No matter how much work hard you put in to be like someone, But the reality still says that you will be a CC (Carbon Carbon) not the (Master Copy).

So just be yourself...!!


I love this...: YOU ARE BORN AN ORIGINAL...DONT DIE A COPY!

LET URSELF FALL......

 I felt i was falling...no one to control ..no one to hold...i was just falling...the feeling of being relieved of all the stress and tension of ur life at times take u to a trancedental world... you want to take a deep dive in water, despite being a non-swimmer, u feel like experiencing the numbness of being drowned....how about the strange feeling that we experience that we are about to fall from bed while we are sleeping but the very moment eyes are opened..I know this has happened with many of us..the jerk felt cant be expressed still its a magical feeling that echoes inside of what may have happen if i would have fallen from bed....many a times we want to indulge ourself in things that others may forbade us to do...we derive a different pleasure when do such things...like some of my friends attended a marriage where they went uninvited and enjoyed to the limit that they think that was an achivement for them....we think its being crazy but at times let urself fall for things which will surely give you a sort of satisfaction,,,a relief from the mundane affair... try out...let yourself fall...for sure you will cherish such an experience always in your life....Life is very small,,live it to the fullest...Just leave aside the WHAT, WHY, HOW & WHERE of life and live it without giving a damn to what others may think...try it...let urself fall..I am sure it will destress you from atleast some of your worries...:))

Welcome!

I know there is nobody to welcome me on my blog so I thought to take this forward and welcome myself by writing this first stupid blog and introduce myself to all of you..Hi friends! I am garima. Ouch! sounds exciting that i am writing about myself. okay, i should not deviate from the main topic . So friends, I am a fun loving, unpredictable girl. I want so much from life. I know it sounds selfish but its true. I want to do so many things in my life. I feel each day of my life teaches me something new. I think i am not always a winner in things that i do with full passion and perseverance but what keeps me trying is my POSITIVITY! I hate being diplomatic. I love reading & writing no matter how bad i may write but i love to write on any damn topic whether it is an experienece, a suggestion, an abstract,  anything complicated, stupid ..It can be anything but if it gets into my head i will write about it. So friends this my space, my blog where I would express my thoughts and welcome suggestions from all... :)) Happy New Year To All...